So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
As Christian men, we are called to be respectful of our spouses and above all to show more compassion, more understanding and more forgiveness to them than we show ourselves. As a matter of fact, God calls men to a higher standard, than the world around us. In other words, just as Jesus gave His life for us, we are to give our lives for our families. As Christian men we are held responsible by God for creating a foundation upon which our families can thrive and grow in trust, grow as a family and grow in the knowledge of Jesus and His word. In addition, we must never forget that anger or frustration does not justify or excuse sinful behavior. Our emotions do not determine reality, nor do they justify bad behavior. As Christian husbands and fathers, we are to put the needs and support of our families ahead of ourselves. Just as Jesus came to give Himself for us, Christian men are called to do the same for their families.
Our roles are to serve and give ourselves for our families, in order that we can build a marriage which becomes the foundation upon which our families can grow. We have to remember, both men and women are created in the image of God, therefore they are both equal before the eyes of God as part of His creation. What this means is that the roles of husband and wives are God’s way of providing stability, responsibility and order within the family. And when God calls husbands to be the leaders of the home, He is calling men to be the solid foundation for their wives and children, in order that they can live a safe, healthy and loving life. Men are called to provide for their families, financially, emotionally and physically. Moreover, they have the God given responsibility to put their wives and children ahead of themselves. We are to put our wants and desires last, because of our love for the Lord and for our families. That’s what God means when he calls men to be the leaders of the home. Husbands should always remember our wives are a gift from the Lord to share our lives with. Therefore, we need to ask ourselves are we truly sharing our lives with our spouses and treating them as the gifts given to us directly by God.